Tuesday, September 22, 2009

I Think We Are Being Compelled to Be Humble...

So, the Friday night after Angel broke his leg, we all headed to Costco (isn't that what everyone does on Friday night?). We hung out looking at books for a while, ate pizza for dinner, got a few groceries and left. Robert unlocked the doors and was acting really weird. He said something to the effect of, "Where are the car-seats?" I was at the backety-back doors about to load up groceries while Angel and Oliver were waiting at the entrance with the Costco wheelchair. I could see from the back that the GPS was not on the windshield as it usually is. Robert has warned me before (and I know this!) not to leave it out when we leave the car, especially at night when it's brightly lit.

Unbelievably, I wandered to the side door and saw that besides the GPS, 2 of our 3 car-seats were gone. Poor Isa had left some of her "treasures" in the cup holder of hers. Nothing else was taken. Not the cds, not the power converter, not the 3rd car-seat identical to 1 of the others.

It is true that Isa's side door (the one I looked into) sometimes does not lock with the automatic locks. So to answer Lucy's question, yes and no. The car doors were locked, except that 1 which has a problem occasionally. Occasionally being that night. EJ, Horatio, nor Isa are old enough nor big enough to be without car seats legally or safety-wise. At least Wal-mart was just down the street, and we had money in our checking account to get new car-seats. We strapped EJ into the last car-seat and drove over there, even though I was tired, in pain, and wanting to just go home.

We got EJ a pink one she chose (she loves pink and girly things just like her sister), but they didn't have a pink booster for Isa. Robert questioned getting a girly one in case the next baby is a boy. I answered petulantly (this is the first I've told him anything might be wrong), "We're not having anymore babies!" He questioned me further about how I knew and I told him I had lower back pain and was bleeding bright red blood already. He tried to hold me and I almost cried right there, but as we hadn't told the kids anything, I was in a lot of pain, and we needed to just get home, I pushed him away a little and said I didn't want to do this here. We had Isa pick out a car-seat she liked, got out of there, strapped in car-seats (EJ was especially excited for hers), and got home. I may have taken a bath that night.

Overall we are blessed. I will miss my GPS, but it was a gift, so we didn't lose any money on it. I don't have money to replace it, so we will have to find our way around the old-fashioned way again. And, even though it wasn't cheap, we did have the money available to replace the old car-seats which were nearing the end of their lifespan anyway. It was just disheartening, especially after Angel broke his leg, I think I'm starting my 2nd miscarriage, and now this.

What kind of a person (even a thief) steals car-seats? And not just any car-seats, but steals 2 from a car that has 3! Don't you people understand that that means that the person driving the car has at least 3 small children? How selfish can you be, to make that family drive their children home unsafely and illegally? What if we had no money for more? I suppose we'd have used a credit card, or driven home anyway. Angel, surprisingly, took it pretty hard. He was very upset that this happened on top of him breaking his leg and all (he was taking it fairly hard anyways).

And now I am worn out from a long week. Yesterday I spent playing Animal crossing and bleeding. My iron has been so low (a normal effect of pregnancy for me) that I've been sleeping in until 11 or 12 daily. Sunday, Yesterday, and today I stayed in bed until after 12. Today I've been blogging it out, and I'll probably go play more video games. I don't need anything. I don't feel like eating anything, and we have plenty of food in the house and money to pay for picking up something if we want to. I CAN do the housework, I'm just not doing it. I wish Robert were here. I don't know what he's thinking and he doesn't know what I'm thinking. But I know it's not over yet. I haven't passed enough for it to be over after almost 12 weeks. So I'm waiting, not going anywhere b/c I don't know exactly when stuff will come out.

Also, I'm ignoring my phone, so leave me a message if you must.


sigh

7 comments:

Lucy Stern said...

April, have you called your doctor? Maybe there is something he can give you to help stop the bleeding.... Don't think of me as stupid, I have never had this happen to me before, so I don't really understand how this works.

People who steal car seats, don't care! They could care less that you have three little ones who need them. I know this is a hard lesson, but you will have to check that car door every time you lock the doors from now own..... I can't tell you how many times I have learned things the hard way...I'm not judging you, I'm just saying that we all go through this at times....And in your case, everything seems to happening all at once... My mom used to say, "When it rains, it pours."...lol.

Have you had a blessing? Fraser could come over and, with Robert, give you a blessing...

OK, I guess I've said enough... I love ya....

Meg said...

Oh, April, I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you. You'll be in my prayers, too. *Hugs*

Ireland Fam said...

Sucky. All of it. I went to a really great motivational speech from the Homeless to Harvard girl and she kind of put the stealing thing into perspective for me. She said something like, "We separate ourselves from you. It is us, and them. They can afford it, the government takes care of them, and the businesses can afford it, etc. We see ourselves as so different from you that it is easy to steal from you. You have so much. In our eyes, YOU are the bad guys." That is not word for word but it made me realize that thieves don't think like me. Where you and I stop and think, "What about the children? How will they get home? What if they can't afford more car seats?" They don't. They haven't thought twice about you or how you got your babies home. They just suck. It's really cool how you are trying to stay positive though. You're honesty is admirable and ignoring the world for awhile isn't such a bad way to help get yourself feeling better. As long as you plan on coming out again. The world needs you.

Beutler Family said...

April! I'm feeling for you. I'm so sorry. What a horrible week. I lost your blog when I did some editing to my blog and just found you again. So sorry that I haven't been able to catch up before now. I'll be praying for you. Take care sweetie.

Kira said...

April, I wanted to cry during your testimony today. (I got your blog from someone else's list, hope you don't mind :-) ) You might want to let Angel read what Trish wrote there. I will never forget when we lived in Baltimore and this 16-year old kid from our branch was at our house and while I was in the other room for about 2 minutes he managed to find my wallet and take out all the cash and stuff it in his sock. I was deeply upset for a long time, but it was a good learning experience for me. It's hard to understand. I'm sorry about your miscarriage, April, I can't imagine the disappointment and the hopeless feelings you have to fight. You are in my prayers!

Julie said...

My heart is breaking for you. I have never enjoyed heartache and often wonder why it is neccessary. I remember at Womens Conference someone was talking about answers to questions we have and sometomes God has to make a whole in our heart to fit the answers. Man, life is hard and I don't begin to know the answers but I know God loves you and your sweet husband loves you. And people who steal car seats are not right in the head.

Lewis and Clark Experience said...

I had no idea about the car too! How awful! Yeah who does that? I love you so much. hugs and hugs!!!! loves nad loves